I read an article recently where it suddenly dawned on the mother that she was behind the camera more than she was in front of it. While this does not necessarily mean taking pictures is a bad thing, the realization that when your children look back on photos of their childhood and you won’t be anywhere in them, hits you like a karate chop to the stomach. At least for me it did. In fact, the article and the budding anxiety that my children will have no photographs of me in their lives drove me to think long and hard about the memories I’m leaving for my three children. I want to be remembered as a mom who took part in their lives – not just one who watched from behind the lens.
Why do we, as moms, step back from the camera lens? Our own insecurities, frustrations about lingering weight, excuses about hair and make-up, and our own self-critical voices that nag and nag until we begin to believe them, make it easy to step outside the frame. “I’ll take the picture,” we say. It sounds so much nicer than, “I feel awful about how I look” doesn’t it?
Michelle from Homeschool-Your-Boys.com and I were talking about it and what a bad example it is for our children when we choose to step aside and take the pictures instead of being in them. Erasing photos that our children take of us, getting upset to find that they actually have taken pictures of us, and the negative way we talk about our figures isn’t done in a vacuum. Our children are watching. They’re seeing the way we respond, the way we choose not to participate, and it’s wrong to put our insecurities in the way of their childhood memories. We’re doing them a disservice. We’re doing ourselves a disservice. Because to them, we are absolutely beautiful. Stunningly gorgeous. Breathtaking, even.
#ThroughMyChildsEyes Challenge for Moms
So, during the month of September, Michelle and I are challenging you to take part in the #ThroughMyChildsEyes Challenge for Moms. We are challenging you to have at least one photo of yourself taken each week during the month of September with your children. The photo can be a selfie with your children, a photo taken of you by your child, or a photo taken by someone else. The point is to be present in the picture with your children. Set aside your insecurities, embrace the moment, celebrate your children’s childhoods and be present.
Ways You Can Participate:
- Accept the challenge!
- Blog about accepting the challenge! Use the graphic below (please don’t alter it in any way) to show your support.
- Add your blog post to the Linky below using the “Add My Link” button.
- Promote the challenge on social media.
- Tell your friends and family.
- Post the pictures of you and your children on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram using the hashtag #ThroughMyChildsEyes. (You are not required to post your pictures on social media. The pictures are ultimately for your children and your family, so don’t let the thought of the world seeing them hold you back. You can keep them to yourself offline.)
- A new linky will be posted each Tuesday for you to add your challenge updates for the week. Please come back and post so that we can support you!